Friday, December 16, 2011


The other day I was standing in my balcony, waiting for the one hour long power cut to end (thanks to TN government for this unkindest cut of all :D) That’s when I heard this little girl cry at the top of her voice…… I craned my neck to see who it was, for in our street there are so many tiny tots.
I saw a girl in the front portico of her house, sitting in the lap of her grandma. The granny was wiping her tears off and was saying “ amma ippo varuva paapa, azhakoodathu nee”. Meaning “mommy will come soon baby, don’t cry”
“Oh this kiddo!” I thought as her sob continued to amplify to a dangerous peak!
The kid has both her parents working who come back home late at  night, and leave early at dawn and she, who is about 3 years old and her younger sis, stay with her grand parents all day. No more a strange story.
This reminded me of an SMS joke that I read recently,which was something  like this
KID: “granny, who is that man and that woman who comes at night?? i saw them yesterday….
GRAN:”Thank god! So you have finally seen them!
They are your parents!!! Both work as software engineers.
Now ,Let’s celebrate this!”

May be it’s a bit lame, but I liked this piece of satire.

A sudden bawl from the kid distracted me from my thoughts
  I thought I t wasn’t fair to get irritated at the noise.   What else do you expect her to do?Dance with glee when she longs for her mommy?
THE naked truth is that kids are the most and worst affected when both their parents are working. The bitter consequence of practicality.
 I know some parents who literally hurl their little kids into some crèches or ask the grandparents to look after them. In newspapers, I have read about parents who forgot to pick their kids up from day care centers, in the hangover of dazzling parties at their work.
 Ask these people how they love their children and they would say.”I call my little one everyday from the office” or “I buy him a BIG cake on the birthday” or “ we buy infinite number of toys,chocolates,colour pencils, everyday only for him”  hmmm….so that is LOVE.
I wonder when and how, each and everything in our lives did become so very formal,So very insincere.
In the run to conquer money, time and what not, people don’t realize that they keep dropping,losing, so many things, the foremost being their kids’ childhoods.
Well one can’t even blame the parents completely for they need to work to make both ends meet, but its hurting to find them becoming materialistic nowadays L

 “ALL I WANNA SAY IS THAT THEY DON’T REALLY CARE ABOUT US!!!!” Suddenly, I heard MJ scream from my T.V. (I wondered if it was just coincidence or if M.J was echoing the lament of the kidsJ).The current had come at last.
My wait finally was over but the little girl’s was not .I wondered how many more minutes, or hours she had to wait for her mommy to come back home….
After looking at the little girl, who had dozed off by then on her granny’s shoulders, I went in to my room.


  1. It's very sad when both parents have to work leaving their children with grandparents. My mother worked and as we lived with my grandparents it was nothing out of the ordinary.
    Mum had to work as dad died when I was three and in those days there was no social security or benefits. I would to liked to have had my mum home especially in the school holidays.

    A great read and most thought provoking.

  2. well...its all about the people being more n more materialistic in their life.....most of them think rather believe that all their kid need is comfort of life and in the run they just miss to give their valuable time to these lovely kids.....

  3. That's exactly why I quit my sewing business. I was spending 40-70 hours a week sewing. My poor kids needed me the whole time :(

  4. Some deep--& very true thoughts--from a very young lady. It is more important to be there to pick up your child when she falls, or smile with her when she's happy, than to buy her a new dress. Of course, she must have a bed & food....

  5. Well we all got to do what we have to do .. SAD .. I know when i came to uk I worked like hell the lure of earning money lots of it , overtime more and more .. not spending a lot of time at home.. but now I dont do any over time and 5 days a week thats it .. Weekend is off


  6. Hmmm, Haritha! Don't get yourself in trouble (lol). But as you said, your trying to "sort out the world around" you.

    Yes, I agree, this post is surely thought provoking. I guess I can't judge if some parents are materialistic, selfish, or if they work to fulfill a genuine need...

  7. aww, poor little kiddo. I feel so bad for those kids, I can't even imagine how they feel. But I think parents should figure something do get both-money and happines from their children.

    Loved your post. as always :)

  8. wow. this was so powerful.
    I love how you related it to so many things along the way like the Sms joke and Mj's lyrics.
    WOW. all I can say is WOW. that pretty much sums up my reaction.

  9. You are very astute young one.

  10. yeah true, but seriously u want that???

  11. Hello.
    This post was a sad reflection of what society has become. I understand mom & dad have to work to make ends meet, but when I was a little child, my mom did not work, there were a lot of mouths to feed & my dad was the only breadwinner in the family. We were poor, but we never went hungry & always had clothes on our backs. Parents of today are of the opinion that giving their child the latest gadget is showing wrong & misdirected they are!

    A very thought-provoking post Haritha.
    Your photo is lovely too.
    Thanks for sharing.

    For ref:
    An Inscription Of Love

  12. this is a very thought provoking post. I could relate with each and every line.. That is why I don't want my wife, an anesthetist to be busy.. and for her professional satisfaction, she gives anesthesia only for my patients,.. which occurs very rarely. . I don't want her to join any full time job with night duties and all.. though she cribs, I tell that it is all good for the family.. and I agree with what Andy said too.. WE always had both parents at home when we returned home and always loved to play as kids both indoors and outdoors..
    how much have the society changed??

  13. Haritha, Hi!

    You see so much with your eyes, soul and spirit at such a young age; I think experience reveals to us who we desire to be and how we don't desire to be; your heart does a greatjob of expressing both in words!

    May you always be blessed to bring forth the best of who you are and will become!


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